punc·til·i·ous [ pungk tíllee əss ]
1. careful about correct behavior: very careful about the conventions of correct behavior and etiquette
always punctilious in his manners
2. fastidious: showing great care in small details
a punctilious execution of a complex design
[Mid-17th century. French pointilleux< pointille "small point" pointe Latin punctum (see point)]
Bob was punctilious, every little detail about the luncheon would be followed to the exacting specifications laid out. Appropriate one kneed bows to be performed when ones tea cup was exactly half empty, the spices in the food specified in micro-gram measurements, and everyone had to wear a top hat with a ribbon tied with a complex knot variation that signified not only the wearer's rank to the other guests but also indicated the dessert choice to the waitstaff.
For only a brief moment did Bob think he was indulging his daughter just a little too much with these extravagant tea parties; all the stuffed animals just seemed so happy!